Unmentionables is a project on broken hearts and unwanted memories. What is thought and never said and the shoulda, coulda, wouldas. A collection of images and letters from people that don't talk to each other anymore. Current works in progress.
Its in my nature to obsess over the important things in my life. I never do anything half way. In my room, boxes of memories flood my closet. Inside, the containers are filled with photos and letters that stitch together my past. Together revealing the framework of the person I am today and my keen sensibility to understand and (more frequently) misunderstand relationships.
I am still trying to figure out why I kept it all for so long. People never want to say goodbye to the things that are important to them, so perhaps to kept them because I knew I would need them later. So after all the anger and blindness, I could say goodbye. I am good at walking away.
I couldn't bring myself to throw it away, but I knew I didn't want to keep them as they were. I wanted to transform them into something that I understand or learned from the experience. Tokens of appreciation for the sacrifice. They are delicate, one-of-a-kind and filled with emotions and memories, just like that people they are about.
The goal isn't to forget these people, its about commemorating the experiences that are so universal to the human condition - love, hate, anger, sadness, confusion and happiness. Transforming the objects helps me to explore the possibilities of peace and closure. The practice of vulnerability can be exhausting and create timelines for healing infrequent, mysterious and offensive.
My goal is not to reach out to individuals, but to in fact show how universal so much of this processes is. That everyone effects everyone is someway and that all most people want is the ability understand each other.